Parenting troubled youth - Part 2 of 10

Nell 'last article, we stressed the decline to control too much, and that the release is a little' beyond the limits of productivity.

Limits;

These are, of course, you can draw lines in the sand. The purpose of these limits is to keep the child safe. It 'used to control your child to be someone else, have a different attitude to change his expression. The limits are for safety.

If you read this article and area situation with a problem child, then you probably already carry into the trap of changing too much control over your child to have abandoned what they do. Excessive control is always a game over children who are trying to escape. PERIOD. This is a loose loose situation.

However, you must set limits to protect their children, seem to have. So I drew the line in the sand with my children. I would not sayare rules and there are mortal sins. N. deadly sins as the Bible, but the fundamental mistake of mine. Sins are few, but everyone. Mine were not unprotected sex. Of course, I do not want to have sex too soon, but realistically, if I could with them 24 hours a day, not in the final analysis, to control. So it was contaminated unprotected sex, is ultimately much worse. Do not drink and drive, not ride with a drunk driver. N. drugs. And that is my mortal sin was. Imay extend the sins of thousands of people have made this list, but then more inclined to check the orientation.

The seven deadly sins have been said about me to their application. Kids I love you and I am your father. My job is to stay safe. The rules are the rules and everyone makes mistakes from time to time to break the rule. But sins can not be broken. If you do, everything you have, I have given. Mobile phones, television, music, toys, hobbies, everything is gone. Canbe for a year, maybe two years, you can. If it breaks a fundamental rule of life as we know it today, has abandoned.

I'm sure I have to say on this point several times in his life.

Use the cardinal rules for setting limits. Everything that you want the lives of their children, is whether it is detrimental to the thing for your child, or just something you do not like is controlled. If you have been arrogant in their controlthe lives of their children, is a time bomb to explode in order to discourage you and your child will be created. The good news is that if you already have many ripe fruits. The publication of this control to keep their borders. Your child will be a sigh of relief is healthy and well.

A parent has the task does not change the personality of children, like all of us. Control will never change who I am. Be an example of it is alwaysfeel concerned. You can control your own if you have more freedom - with the consequences that occur naturally give them control over himself. But the authoritarian control of the parents are not, never.