Soothing Terror

My niece spent the afternoon with me. Haley (8), Alex (4 1 / 2), and went to the lakeside park near my house to enjoy the beautiful day and "see what I could see." But we walk the beautiful garden. Billy Goats Gruff was playing on deck (alternating as the Troll). Found in fish sticks to go in the pond, and finally ended up in the playground. It 'was a great day for us all.

Then we went home with Lulu Grass (I) on the head.Everything was in order, while the girls lost behind me, as the squirrel and the source. I turned to see how, just in time to see Alex ran, stumbled, and take a fall! When he shouted at the top of their lungs, I rushed to his side and wrapped his arms around her.

* I have read a good book by renowned child psychiatrist Dr. Bruce D. Perry. As I said Alexa, I was reminded of his statement: "To allay the fearChild, you need to calm down first. "In this context, I have a few deep breaths for the injuries this child very anxious and frightened, the blood on his elbow and blood near the tip of a finger evaluated.

Bruce Perry has also written about "The awakening of the Continuum," which tells us that we go through the trauma of quiet attention, after the alarm, then fear and finally ... Terror. Rank was outside its state of rest of fun and terror in about 15 seconds away property! My goal was to climbtheir help restore a sense of calm and serenity. I tried to comfort and reassure. Shouted: "I want my mommy!" With arms wrapped around his neck and legs around his waist, which crossed the highway, and the commissioning of the hill. "I want my mommy!" sobbed. She kept screaming. I continued to reassure her. (I wonder if the residents concerned would think that I was kidnapped.)

In the hall, reminded him of his "inner voice" use,relaxed a bit '. In my apartment, he said, especially since I cleaned the wounds and try to put patches. Without this, we sat on the floor and I held in my arms for a while '. Suddenly his fingers looked surprised and said: "It does not hurt anymore!" The storm was over. He endured the pain and left the other side. He had to calm down again, a natural process.

His young brain registered that this experience will help you more with the future lifeTrauma. The telephone conversation with his mother later was the icing on the cake for them. E 'state, as demonstrated by recent research, as well as an embrace of love ("The mother's voice on the phone for a child as much as an embrace of peace, a study suggests.")

In any event, or a scraped knee, a broken heart, or an earthquake determines our reaction to the result. In short form: E + R = O. I learned in a lecture by Jack Canfield. We can not, outside the control of many events (especiallyAccidents) that occur in the life of influence, but the result on how to react. And 'cool better if we do, so pick and place, they do not respond ("clumsy boy, easy!"), Bass ("that's nothing," or "child"), or reproach ("You must have see where you've been. ") In any situation the best way to react when we are in a calm and have peace of mind.

(The child, a dog was raised as Bruce Perry, MD, Ph.D.)

Parents happyDay!

During a seminar for parents, Larry shared his favorite memory of his father. "I loved when I was on my shoulders and sang for me. I felt loved." What are your favorite memories of his father or father figure favorite? Your children would love to hear them. I would say the sun just a comment on this article and for me. Your father react to reduce or complain if you were injured? If so, now you can react differently withChildren.

Thought for the day

"Children, parents should be involved, especially early in his life
are smarter and better at school ....
These children are happier, have better social skills and fewer emotional problems,
risk behaviors and are less likely to exercise or get into trouble. "
-Will Courtenay, PhD, "The Doc Man

My best wishes for a happy summer!
Louise